Getting married means that you already have three rings. Engagement ring, wedding ring, and suffering.
Scaring couples who are about to or have just got married and have gone through these times can sometimes be ridiculous. Although it can be said outrageous, it is a fact that is true. But, of course, I couldn’t laugh out loud when I was experiencing it myself.
Just a simple play. Are you sure you want to marry your beautiful but fierce future wife? After marriage, the horns and tail will grow. On the other hand, questions for the bride are different. Are you sure you still want to marry your handsome future husband but the only child in his house? Can you stand being arranged by your in-laws? You always fight with your mother and father. It could be a world war III later with your in-laws.
For newly married, there is just something to ask. Are you sure you want to have children? Can’t be happy-go-lucky anymore, traveling abroad as you like. Who looks after your child? Need proper funds for raising children. Must buy milk, baby food, clothes, diapers, etc. Are you ready to stay up all night taking care of your child? Not to mention if the baby is sick. Can only fuss and cry all the time.
Most of the faces of the talkers will immediately smile wryly. Because they can’t answer all the questions. Even if it’s just a joke, some take it seriously. And the questions asked are also quite serious.
Your children are all grown up, so it’s just a matter of waiting for the time to carry your grandchildren, right? Asked Junet. Yes, but that’s not the case. You have taken care of them until they grow up and get married. Why do you have to take care of your grandchildren again? I hope I don’t get involved with babysitters and daycare activities anymore. The standard is not like that. Don’t repeat that mistake. The talkers immediately choked and froze for a moment.
I continue the argument. I want to be an independent senior. Why do you still live with children? It is enough to take care of them from 0 to their 30s. After that, we start the circle of life again from the beginning. Thanks, but no thanks. Lucky if the pension money is still there left. If it’s not there, it ends up in a retirement home. And you guys should take the time to come visit. Because if I end up in a retirement home, it could mean that even my children don’t want to take care of their parents anymore.
This time the room suddenly became silent. The talkers think I’m serious and have planned my old age well and correctly. Maybe no one thinks so far, or we never dare to think about it?
A few weeks later, Junet contacted me. This time it was my turn to choke, and I froze. Please inform me if you have reserved your retirement home. I need it too, sir.
Even though I explained that the retirement home argument was only half a joke, Junet was too convinced by my explanation. And insists later that I have to be her neighbor when I’m in a retirement home. I’m doomed.
I recently learned that Junet is a single parent, and her only child is studying and working abroad. No wonder.
Moral: Threatening does not necessarily make other people will be afraid and worried. Sometimes it can have the opposite effect. Become more daring and challenged.